a woman exercising control, influence, or authority like that of a mother: to be a mother to someone. 3) the qualities characteristic of a mother, as maternal affection. 4) something or someone that gives rise to or exercises protecting care over something else.
Alese Tveisme-Fischer has been all of these things and more which is why I label her my Mom. Ever since she came into my life 7 years ago when she was engaged to my dad, she has accepted me as her daughter. Even when she and my Dad broke up she has kept in touch with my sister's and I. I always tell her that I think God brought her to us for my sister's and I not the relationship with my Dad. While I was staying with her in May we went to a neighborhood BBQ and all of her neighbors knew me as her daughter, that's how SHE chose to introduce me. She has pictures of us (Ken, Kevin and myself and my sister's and nephew) hanging in her home and at her office. She introduced me to her co-workers as her daughter. She has been there for advice, opinions, support and so much more. She is an amazing Mom. Yesterday my sister and I were told by friends of Alese that since we are not family we need to let them update us (I have only called twice since the accident so if I came across pushy I am sorry for that). Essentially we were told to back off or at least that's the way we interpreted it. My sister and I were and still are very hurt.
The other day I talked to her husband letting her know that I am planning on coming up in September to help her. I'm hopeful that she will be out of the hospital by then and needing more at home held which I will be more than happy to give. Ken and I do not have the finances to make a trip right now where it is at last minute. I wish we did however our savings would barely cover a one way ticket for one of us. I also told him however that if things got worse someone could contact the Red Cross who would get a message to my husband, he would then be put on Emergency Leave and we could go to Navy Marine Corps Relief Society and be granted Emergency Travel Funds. Well, I was informed by a friend of my mom's that they do not feel comfortable doing that since she is not my real Mom...well according to the definition of Mom she is.
On a positive note she is doing well. She completed all of her surgeries yesterday. Today they have been focused on weaning her off the pain meds and sedation meds in order to get her to wake up. She has fluttered her eyes occasionally and Dave mentioned to my sister who went to the hospital today that they opened briefly. I have not been updated today by anyone other than my sister. The Dr's are worried about her cognitive and neurological abilities. The next couple of days are going to be focused on waking her up. Please continue to keep her in your thoughts and prayers. I love you Mom. Get well soon.
Alese Tveisme-Fischer has been all of these things and more which is why I label her my Mom. Ever since she came into my life 7 years ago when she was engaged to my dad, she has accepted me as her daughter. Even when she and my Dad broke up she has kept in touch with my sister's and I. I always tell her that I think God brought her to us for my sister's and I not the relationship with my Dad. While I was staying with her in May we went to a neighborhood BBQ and all of her neighbors knew me as her daughter, that's how SHE chose to introduce me. She has pictures of us (Ken, Kevin and myself and my sister's and nephew) hanging in her home and at her office. She introduced me to her co-workers as her daughter. She has been there for advice, opinions, support and so much more. She is an amazing Mom. Yesterday my sister and I were told by friends of Alese that since we are not family we need to let them update us (I have only called twice since the accident so if I came across pushy I am sorry for that). Essentially we were told to back off or at least that's the way we interpreted it. My sister and I were and still are very hurt.
The other day I talked to her husband letting her know that I am planning on coming up in September to help her. I'm hopeful that she will be out of the hospital by then and needing more at home held which I will be more than happy to give. Ken and I do not have the finances to make a trip right now where it is at last minute. I wish we did however our savings would barely cover a one way ticket for one of us. I also told him however that if things got worse someone could contact the Red Cross who would get a message to my husband, he would then be put on Emergency Leave and we could go to Navy Marine Corps Relief Society and be granted Emergency Travel Funds. Well, I was informed by a friend of my mom's that they do not feel comfortable doing that since she is not my real Mom...well according to the definition of Mom she is.
On a positive note she is doing well. She completed all of her surgeries yesterday. Today they have been focused on weaning her off the pain meds and sedation meds in order to get her to wake up. She has fluttered her eyes occasionally and Dave mentioned to my sister who went to the hospital today that they opened briefly. I have not been updated today by anyone other than my sister. The Dr's are worried about her cognitive and neurological abilities. The next couple of days are going to be focused on waking her up. Please continue to keep her in your thoughts and prayers. I love you Mom. Get well soon.
Oh honey, please don't let anyone else define your relationship with Alese. You know in your heart that she loves you. And "family" does not mean only blood related.
ReplyDeleteMaybe these people are overwhelmed right now, I pray that they treat you and your sisters better.
Be your sweet self, and do what you think Alese would want you to do!