Thursday, July 8, 2010
Friends?!
SO here it is a year later after our move across country to Virginia and the only friend I have made is my boss. Sad?! Don't get me wrong I love her, but we aren't exactly have drinks and dinner friends... which is really what I'm wanting lately. I miss my girls, my besties, and my sisters. I have never had a ton of friends, with 4 sisters and 3 awesome Besties i've never felt the need and it has usually taken me a while to open up to people and become friends. I usually make them pretty well in school and work situations after I have opened up a little. The great thing about that is when I do make really good, soul mate friends I keep them. My two best friends (ya know the girls, the ones who you call crying after a stressful day, the first to know your pregnant, the one's who make the effort to see you while you are in town, your maids of honor), well my two girls have been my girls since elementary school. One since we believe kindergarten but we can't quite remember. The other is from 3rd grade. I miss these girls. Even through moves back and forth we have remained friends. We may not talk every day but we are there when we need each other. When I lived in Washington and went to Legacy I made quite a few friends. Unfortunately even though those friendships meant something to me I have only one bestie that remaines. I'm still friendly acquaintances with some of them which I love and treasure I just feel thirsty for more. It just seems so much easier to make friends when you have school or work. So my question to all other bloggers and military spouses out there... how, when you are not forced to see them on a daily basis due to work or school do you just go out there and meet people and become friends. My closest friend lives 2000 miles away. Not exactly the most convenient for girls night out. I'm sorry for the pity party readers but I'm thirsty for some girl time and I need some advice. I feel a little pathetic asking but how do you meet/make friends? When there is work, and baby, and hubby and mommy/wife duties where do you go? I wish there was an Eharmony for older women who are looking for just friendships.
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I so understand! I tried to make friends with some other wives that I met through Blake's friends/co-workers (when we lived on base). You can try to get involved in on-base functions, especially family nights. If you meet someone you like, be bold: ask to set up a playdate, and ask her if she'll bring a few of her friends!
ReplyDeleteSince I've had Ferris I've been trying to make more friends, too. I've gone to a playdate, BBQ and glass-making party, and even trip to Mt St Helens to stay in a cabin! I decided I'll just go to everything that comes my way and try to make some new mom-friends!
Good luck, just be open and try to keep the conversation going! You could also look people up on facebook!
Facebook has really helped me. Moving 13 hours to VA from Nashville, TN and not knowing anyone scared me.. but I had been talking to one girl on Facebook for months, and she and I became inseparable. I also suggest getting involved with your husband's command FRG. I have met some of the most amazing ladies there. And we go out as a group all the time. I also am admin of "Naval Station Norfolk Girls" group on Facebook. It's not the most active, but I set up a lunch meet and greet every now and then. The last one had about 8 girls show up, one of which is also one of my bloggy friends.
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